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		<title>Offering Support During Pet Grief: A Heartfelt Approach</title>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p>Supporting someone whose pet has died is an amazing gift you can offer them. To be comforted with consoling words or gestures makes it a bit more bearable in that moment and throughout the grieving process.</p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Imagine you receive an early morning call or text that goes somewhat like this:</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Friend (sobbing): </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Kasey died last night (sniffle). I woke up and there she was. On the floor. Stretched out in an awkward pose (sobs). It looked painful. Like she had tried to jump up onto the bed and didn’t make it. She must have missed and toppled downward. (More sobs).  The way her legs were…  it looked like she had been grasping to right herself up on her paws and kept failing.  If only I had woken up. It’s my fault.  (loud inhale). She’s dead because of me.  I could have saved her. What am I going to do without her?  What will I do with her things? Kasey’s dead. What will I do?</span></i></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It’s likely your first instinct is to reassure your friend with anything you don’t think/know is not true. </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It wasn’t your fault.”  “Kasey was old (arthritic, had a heart issue, or some sort of physical illness)”  “I’m sure she didn’t suffer.”  </span></i></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you are quick thinking you blurt out facts </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">-“that awkward pose is likely rigor mortis that’s set in” </span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">or</span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> “her things can be donated to the shelter or some made into memorials.”  </span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Something, anything so as not to hear such raw emotion pouring forth from your friend.  </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">However, those types of statements usually are speculative or logical in nature and your friend is not in a logical mode at this point in time. They are feeling. They are responding emotionally to this unexpected event.</span></p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p>So what can you do that will be supportive?</p>
<h4><strong>Acknowledge the Death</strong></h4>
<p>Just saying “I’m so sorry for your loss” goes so far in helping someone. It shows that you recognize the significance of this death in your friend’s life and the depth of that relationship.</p>
<p>Losing a pet can be as heartbreaking as the death of a close friend or family member. Pets are companions and can be a source of unconditional love. Their passing often leaves a huge void in one’s life, especially in those initial months.</p>
<h4><strong>Listen</strong></h4>
<p>It is time to acknowledge their loss and to listen. It is time to reflect their feelings, both spoken and unspoken ones. It is time to offer comfort, not facts. That means it’s not time to insert our thoughts, feelings, or especially, solutions.</p>
<p>And yes, it’s likely that your friend would not have been able to “save” their pet but this is not the moment to express that. Just listen to the myriad of their jumbled thoughts.</p>
<p>You can acknowledge what might be their unspoken feelings:</p>
<p>&#8211; <em>It is really difficult wrap your head and heart around what happened. </em><br /><em>&#8211; There’s just so many emotions and that’s okay. </em><br /><em>&#8211; It’s normal that you’re feeling angry, (if that’s what you’re hearing/seeing)</em><br /><em>&#8211; Even though you knew (name) didn’t have much longer, it still doesn&#8217;t feel fair when it actually happens.</em></p></div>
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<p>Listen to their stories, even the ones you heard before. Ask about their favorite holiday memory. Find out what was the silliest thing their pet ever did. Recalling special memories contributes to the healing process.</p>
<p><em>Do you recall when Niles hid in your sister’s car and they drove for half an hour before he woke up and emerged from under the blanket in the back seat.? She said she never screamed so loudly while Niles just meowed for some food all the way back.</em></p>
<p>Ask if they are comfortable in sharing some pictures of their pet on their phone, camera, or computer. Scrolling back through the months and years can bring forth those loving, funny, silly moments of the pet’s life.</p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h4><strong>Ask Directly</strong></h4>
<p><em>How can I support you?</em><br /><em>What do you need?</em><br /><em>What can I do for you?</em></p>
<p>When one loses a pet, oftentimes the daily routines of the human change significantly. People might forget to prepare meals or go shopping. They may forget appointments. Simple daily tasks or decisions might seem difficult or impossible to do.</p>
<p>It may be that the person is also having difficulty telling you what they need. <em>Would it be helpful if we went grocery shopping together?</em> Place the task front and center, indicating your willingness to help.</p>
<p>These questions are important as you are asking the individual what <strong>they</strong> need and will help <strong>them</strong> at that point. It leaves them in control of the process.</p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h4><strong>Just Do</strong></h4>
<p>Similar to human loss, there are a number of concrete things that can be done.</p>
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<li>Share a meal or several.</li>
<li>Bring flowers, a sympathy card or one that brings a chuckle.</li>
<li>Together brainstorm different ideas of honoring the pet’s memory</li>
<li>Offer to help with the process. It could be:
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<li>Donate food, toys, or money to a pet charity of the person’s choice</li>
<li>Pack up the toys, collars and other items. This way your friend can look and make decisions at a later time. Obviously this would only be done with their permission.</li>
<li>Continue to check in with them.</li>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h4><strong>A Gentle Reminder</strong></h4>
<p>Their grieving process isn’t yours. Everyone navigates the path of loss differently.</p>
<p>What helped you to heal the pain of your pet’s death might not be the best for your friend. If asked, you can share “<em>this is what worked for me. It may or may not strike a chord with you.</em>” Again, if they voice any resistance (<em>I can’t do that because…</em>) it’s not the time to try to outlogic them as to why it would work.</p>
<p>Information and discussions about options can be helpful when the person is ready to hear those aspects of the grief process.</p>
<p>You can offer a listening ear, the normalization of their experience, and be a memory-keeper. Those are precious gifts.</p></div>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2023 05:11:25 +0000</pubDate>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p>Watching my cat’s health fail and anticipating her death years ago was a difficult experience. She had been the one <a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://thequiltedjardin.com/2021/01/20/chosen-by-shelter-cats/&amp;sa=D&amp;source=docs&amp;ust=1691124273425720&amp;usg=AOvVaw0WutWbOW4gKK0XbOBx6w0S">we saw first at the shelter</a> and lived the longest.</p>
<p>Anticipatory grief, the grief that comes before a pet dies, can be challenging. It comes complete with the same progression as the grief following the death of a human &#8211; denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance*. Over the years, many clients who commissioned a fabric pet portrait or pet memorial from me have shared their fears and concerns. Both my personal and professional experience with death and dying allow me to empathize with others who are walking this path, even though I am not a certified pet grief counselor. There are many aspects of pet grief that I will be sharing here over the upcoming months.</p>
<h2>Anticipatory pet grief: real yet surreal</h2>
<p>Anticipatory pet grief is real, whether accompanying a slow decline in your pet&#8217;s health or following the devastating news of an impending death. There’s this surreal feeling when you hear that your beloved pet has a terminal illness and/or they have only X number of months/weeks left to live. Right behind the immediate thought that there must be some mistake is a numbness that overtakes your heart. But this can’t be true, you repeat over and over. A flood of questions pours forth:</p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;">How much longer will we have together?<br />Is he/she in pain? How much pain (even with any medication) is too much?<br />Should I have seen this sooner?<br />Is there anything I should do before s/he dies?</p>
<p>It’s not uncommon for a whole host of feelings to emerge as you feel powerless to stop what feels inevitable.</p></div>
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<p>While there are many advances in medical science, the ability to predict the precise number of remaining days of a pet is not an exact science. Some animals live much longer than what the veterinarian said; others die sooner than expected. That unknown is one of the things that makes anticipatory pet grief so challenging. You have no knowledge of or control over the timeline of your pet’s remaining days. Not knowing when the end will come can be anxiety producing and make it difficult to schedule activities for yourself and/or plan things with your pet. <em>Do I book a spot at the kennel for her/him when I go on vacation? Or will they be too sick and I won’t want to go/leave them there? What happens if they die when I’m gone and I can’t say goodbye?</em></p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p>The feelings of guilt or regret often accompany anticipatory pet grief. You may feel guilty for not noticing signs of illness or that decline in the health of your furry companion sooner. Maybe you’re feeling that you didn’t do enough to prevent that illness or keep him/her healthier. Then, the <em>I wish I had done more XYZ activities when s/he was healthier</em> thoughts often emerge.</p>
<p>For some folks, feelings of depression emerge as they feel powerless. A gap of uncertainty widens as you begin to realize how intricately your life is intertwined with your pets. Thoughts of <em>What will I do without him/her to go on a walk with</em> or <em>Who will love me as unconditionally as s/he did</em>, can begin to take over and sap the joy of life right out of you.</p>
<p>The important thing is to be aware of the process, your feelings, and be a bit prepared.</p>
<h2>Some Ways to Prepare</h2>
<p>Here is a quick summary of things that help ease one through the anticipatory grief process.</p>
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<li>Make memories</li>
<li>Identify/create a support system</li>
<li>Care for yourself physically and emotionally</li>
<li>Future planning</li>
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<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>1. Make Memories</strong></span>: There are so many ways to build memories. Just simply spending time with your beloved animal creates new things to laugh about and share with others. That cuddle time or belly scratches helps you focus on the present, on the love you feel for your companion. Those daily routines of a walk or giving a treat after supper can help during the transitioning time. Scrolling through your photos and talking to friends can bring forth those wonderful events and scenes from the past.</p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p>You can create paw print or nose prints, assuming your dog or cat is willing to partner with your artistic endeavors. Take extra photos or videos. Make a scrapbook or memory box. Commission a pet portrait. The underlying principle here is to do things that help you make a stronger connection during those remaining months, weeks, or days. Do what offers comfort to you.</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>2. Identify/create a support system</strong></span>: Seek out those people who understand the role your pet has had in your life. Talk with them about the news and ask them to check in with you in the upcoming weeks/months. Share what you think might help you, if you know. Maybe it’s their stories of your pet’s special antics or that way s/he always greeted them when they came over to your place. These are the people who will not tell you how you should be feeling, but rather listen to you. <br />Just knowing that you are not alone in this process and having that safe space to share your feelings and memories can help tremendously. <br />There also are a number of online support groups and forums for pet owners experiencing anticipatory grief, which can provide additional resources and support. Choose thoughtfully. This is not the time for you to take on others’ grief.</p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>3. Care for yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually</strong></span>: It’s not going to be easy. Plowing forth stoically in denial usually takes a toll on you. It’s easy to answer “I’m fine” when you really aren’t. It’s okay to say things like: “this is hard for me” or “I’m doing so-so” or “just taking one day at a time”. Do things that support your physical health (walking, meditating, exercise, etc.) and allow yourself to identify/name those emotions you are feeling. Remember to eat and sleep as well as you can.</p>
<p>Be gentle with yourself. It’s easy to go down the I-should-have route of replaying every health- related decision you made or feeling guilty because you didn’t spend more time with him/her.</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>4. Future/pre-planning</strong></span>: Figure out those basic tough things ahead of time.</p>
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<li>How much can you afford to pay for medical care?</li>
<li>When does your pet’s care switch to hospice care/palliative, keeping the pain at a minimum?</li>
<li>At what point would you say it’s time to let him/her go?</li>
<li>What does that look like?</li>
<li>Do you want a burial or cremation?</li>
<li>Do you want a memorial?</li>
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<p>While these decisions can be extremely hard to make as you are watching your pet’s health decline, it is harder sometimes to make those after the actual death.</p></div>
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<p>And a cautionary note… there are some folks (family, friends, strangers) who will feel compelled to tell you what to do (<em>Get another dog right away</em>), how you should feel (<em>Don’t be sad. She will be out of her pain soon</em>) and even minimize your feelings (<em>It’s just a cat</em> or <em>Why are you so upset when he hasn’t even died yet?</em>). These are the folks NOT to add to #2 above.</p>
<p>The road ahead, however long it is, will not be easy as you say goodbye to your pet. Yet the areas listed above are some tools to help you on this difficult journey.</p>
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<p>* These are the five stages of grief as identified by Dr. Elizabeth Keebler-Ross in <em>On Death and Dying</em>.</p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><em>&#8220;Good morning! I was looking for a class to take with my mother-in-law&#8230; in early March and didn&#8217;t know if you were offering one?! It&#8217;s her birthday and it&#8217;s been some time since both of us have dusted off our machines.&#8221;</em></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Back in early 2019, I received the above email and thus began my first pet portrait class. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Emails flew back and forth as we ironed out details. I talked about my teaching style. While they would work from a photo, they would be layering instead of piecing and they’d make their “pattern pieces” from the enlarged photo or freehand. Since some people feel they cannot sew without pre-printed pattern pieces, I make a point of explaining this. Sometimes a student’s feelings of “I can’t do this” are so overwhelming that while the individual may have a great vision, they just can’t make that first experimental cut into the fabric.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Leah was thrilled since she had always wanted to try fabric art and was happily discussing possible pets for her portrait. The more emails we sent back and forth, the more excited she got. “&#8230; (this) out of the box opportunity was just too great to pass up!!” She shared that her mother-in-law might be a bit hesitant as to whether or not she could do this new art form. I said something to the effect of between the two of us, she’ll be fine.</span></p></div>
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<p>The list of supplies and tools for the day was emailed. I requested the photos they were considering as reference photos ahead of time so I could see if there was anything that might be too advanced for a first attempt.</p>
<p>“So as you are thinking of what photo you’d like to recreate in fabric, try to first pick one that “speaks to” you. It could capture a certain look of your pet or just have a special memory. The clearer the picture is, the easier it will be to work with… however, we can work with ones that aren’t that clear if we have other photos to reference.”</p>
<p>Knowing their choices prior to class day allowed me to get the photos enlarged. I pulled out class material from years ago when I was teaching Beginning and Intermediate Fabric Art Quilts at Saratoga County Adult Continuing Education, reworked some of it, and into folders it went.</p>
<p>Betsy and I had a number of emails discussing her reference photo possibilities. Irises, sunsets, or her Mickey. While she wasn’t confident that she could make a black cat out of fabric look anything like her Mickey, I had enough confidence for both of us, so Mickey it was. The fact that Mickey was transitioning through that end-of-life time of his life added a poignant dimension to the whole process.</p>
<p>“So, just something to be aware of, as you choose colors for your picture when you are here with me, go for what speaks to your heart/ soul. It’s okay to cut fabric up, put it down, and if something isn’t right, take that fabric off and cut up something else. And then something else… and then go back to the first one. I call it ‘auditioning’ the fabric.”</p>
<p>The day before Betsy wrote: “She (Leah) is so much fun and we have a great time when we are together. This class will be so much fun with the 3 of us!!!” It’s nice knowing one’s students are excited before we even start.</p>
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<h2>Fabric Art Creation Day</h2>
<p>This mid-February day began (and ended) with no snow, so that was a joy. Leah was coming down south 3 hours and Betsy had to come over the mountain, which can be treacherous in winter storms. The day began with setting up their machines, followed by information about different techniques, and then the making began. Pet portraits can be made as wall hangings, mounted on canvas, or as pillows. They both chose to make theirs as wall hangings.</p>
<p>Similar to what is in my blog post, <a href="https://thequiltedjardin.com/2021/02/28/making-a-fabric-pet-portrait/">Making a Fabric Pet Portrait: Cooper’s Memorial Pillow</a>, the second copy of the enlarged photo was cut out in muslin for the base. Each part (ears, jaw, face, mane) was also cut out to be the pattern for that particular area.</p>
<p>What always is interesting to me is to watch the approach individual students take when they begin to add color on top of that muslin base. Some approach it with abandon, quickly rummaging through their fabrics, choosing what feels right quickly and cutting away with the scissors; others lay out all the material choices around the base, move them around a number of times, step back, make some changes and even then, hesitantly make that first cut. Both styles were present in this daughter/ mother-in-law pair.</p>
<p>Leah worked on her horse, Moon. She had initially written to me: “I have an old man (27 years young) black (graying though) horse who I&#8217;ve owned for 22+ years and was thinking of maybe doing something of him. I didn&#8217;t know how difficult doing a BLACK animal would be though.” I had sent them photos of different completely black animals I had done and I suspect that helped move the needle. She wanted to have it be whimsical and magical as this gentle creature exudes that essence. Her material choices reflect that vision.</p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p>For Mickey, I recommended that Betsy start with the head and eyes first. Often just having a complete face cut out allows students to go forward with more conviction and confidence.</p>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Since Betsy wasn’t sure what she wanted to do for her background, I had her practice the blanket stitch on a flower shape that I had left over from my previous classes.  </span></p>
<h2>Creating the Pet Portrait Background: Six Months Later</h2>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I received an email from Betsy wondering if she could come over to work with me on the background for Mickey. She had some ideas, yet she wasn’t sure whether or not the colors worked well enough. So over the mountain she came with a basketful of material and Mickey, the fabric Mickey, that is.  </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Betsy spoke of how during these months she had received compliments from friends and co-workers on her portrayal of Mickey. A number of them had encouraged her to finish it. &#8220;It’s going to be amazing!” they said.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Betsy knew she wanted her cat to be outside on grass with a soft sky in the background. She auditioned a number of grass materials. We dug into my scrap drawers and fabric bins to add to her sky options.  </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Watching Betsy cut out the strips for the sky brought a smile to my face as there were no patterns for the layers of the atmosphere, just freehand cutting. She was doing what six months ago seemed impossible and doing it well. Most importantly she felt good about her progress.  </span></p></div>
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<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Almost a year from when we had the class, I received the photos below.  Mickey was finished and had his place of remembrance and honor in Betsy’s new house.</span></p></div>
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<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I know how challenging it can be for people new to art quilts and fabric collage to overcome the mindset gremlins. I have been there.  </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">There was a time in my art and business journey when I had convinced myself:</span></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">I couldn’t put colors (fabric) together correctly.</span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Without any formal art training, my work would never be good enough. </span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">I wouldn’t learn to create pets that look real enough.</span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">I couldn’t paint eyes or noses.</span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">I couldn’t do Instagram, create a monthly newsletter, or write a blog.  </span></i></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">What I found out over time:</span></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">I can combine colors together well when I listen to the fabric speaking to me.</span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">I can view fabric with different eyes, seeing shapes within patterns and colors.</span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">My skill set improved through practice and the many portraits I created.</span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Practice works. </span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">I enjoy writing/sharing my art journey, observations, and techniques with others.</span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">A joyFULL art piece is as valuable as one that is technically correct</span></i></p>
<p style="padding-left: 40px;"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">When you create from the heart, it all falls into place.</span></i></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">These days when there is something new for my business, my phrase is “ I haven’t learned how to do that YET.”  And when those &#8220;You Won’t Ever Be Able to Do That, Martha&#8221; gremlins come marching up to my door, I invite them in, acknowledge the fear and doubt that surrounds them, and send them on their way gently with a “Oh but I will. I will learn it over time. You don’t need to protect me from failure. It won’t be perfect at first and I will keep improving the more I do something.” </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I can hear the Pinterest gremlins in the distance. I am armed with my “I haven&#8217;t learned Pinterest, YET” shield.</span></p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><em>Q: How do you turn all those pieces of fabric into a picture of my dog?<br />A: One step at a time, one step at a time.</em></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Let me walk you through the process of the co-creation of a pet portrait, using a recent example of Cooper. First, here’s some background information. The woman who commissioned Cooper’s memorial portrait saved my business postcard for 2 years. When her daughter’s family lost their beloved furry companion, she knew this would be the <a href="thequiltedjardin.com/product/deposit-for-a-custom-pet-portrait-or-memorial/">perfect sympathy gift</a> for the loss of such a devoted pet. She wanted a <a href="thequiltedjardin.com/pet-memorial-portraits/">pet memorial pillow</a> of “the sweetest boy ever.”</span></p>
<h3><b>Step 1:  The pet’s photograph</b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A portrait piece or pet memorial is created from a photo, usually sent to me digitally. I will not create a portrait from another artist’s work or any copyrighted or trademarked design unless I have written permission from the artist/ photographer.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The sharper the picture is, the easier it is to recreate. Receiving several images is helpful as I look to see which of those matches up best with the pet’s personality as described to me. Frequently that comes forth in the eyes but sometimes I can see it in the ears, a tilt of the head, or the tongue.</span></p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h3><b>Step 2:  Logistical Questions</b></h3>
<p><strong>What will the final product be?</strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> A pillow, an art piece mounted on canvas, a wall hanging, a matted picture or a finished piece that will be framed?</span></p>
<p><strong>Will this be a headshot, full body or partial body portrait?</strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> For example, a full body would lose details in a 12&#215;12 inch (31&#215;31 cm) size.</span></p>
<p><strong>What size will the final product be?</strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> The smallest custom size is canvas-mounted at 12&#215;12 inches (31&#215;31 cm); the largest portrait to date is 40&#215;36 inches (102&#215;91 cm). My largest work to date (view of mountains outside) was 9 feet by 9 feet. I can make any size! </span></p>
<p><strong>By when is it needed?</strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">  Knowing the date it needs to arrive at its destination allows me to fit each order into my schedule. If there are any potential conflicts, I send an email outlining when I could start, such as “The soonest I could begin your order would be 3 weeks from now. Does that work for you?”</span></p>
<p><strong>Is this a gift?</strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> If so, I offer several options. <br />1. I can create a finished piece.<br /></span><span style="font-weight: 400;"></span><span style="font-weight: 400;">2. I can work through a first draft, completing the process with the giftee.<br />3. With the purchase of a <a href="thequiltedjardin.com/product/deposit-for-a-custom-pet-portrait-or-memorial/">gift certificate</a>, I can work directly with the giftee. </span></p>
<h3><b>Step 3:  Background for a dog or cat portrait</b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">There are times when the existing photo background is just perfect and I translate that into fabric mountains, water, a deck or whatever is there. Other times folks tell me what they envision. “He accompanies me on so many walks in the Colorado hills, Can you do that?” It could just be a portrait background. The color choices are made by the customer. If a light blue is desired, I’ll send a photo with all the light blue fabrics I have so the client can choose. </span></p></div>
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<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The good part is that, until I start sewing, the background is only pinned and can be switched out further down the line.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Because Cooper was to be on a pillow, she chose to go with a head shot. I suggested we use the photo of him in the leaves as his expression spoke of his love of the outdoors and his “sweet nature.” She chose green fabric for the background as he would have been lost with the autumn tones of the original photo.    </span></p>
<h3><b>Step 4:  First pet portrait draft &#8211; Flowered pins, Goldilocks questions, and tweaking</b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I have bins and bins of fabric. There are ones for medium and bigger sized fabric (fat quarters and yard lengths) and then there are drawers that just hold scraps. Before beginning, I will comb through all of these to find all the fabrics that are represented in the selected reference photo.</span></p></div>
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<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Having enlarged the dog or cat’s portrait to a black and white photo of the appropriate size, I cut a muslin base of their face or body using that photo as my pattern. That helps me have a framework within which to place the body material.  It sometimes happens that the initial fabric choices are not correct. For Cooper, even though two of the three photos had him with darker, rusty fur, it became obvious that these fabric colors weren’t his.</span></p></div>
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<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">There are two different methods I use for cutting the fabric pieces. Let me call them “freestyling” and “traced.” Freestyling is where I cut out the pieces of the animal from the enlarged photo. This gives me the exact correct shape of a particular body part, i.e. ears. Then I eyeball the different colorations within that shape and cut fabric to represent those fur shades or colors.   This tends to give a more representative look, more feeling/soulful than photographic. The other method is where I trace each of the different color/shade changes in the enlarged photo onto paper. These then become a pattern piece. I used the freestyling method for Cooper.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The eyes, oh the eyes. I&#8217;ve learned over time to begin with the eyes. When a pet’s personality is captured in the eyes from the beginning, the viewer can see more of him/ her in each of the steps when I ask for feedback. The eye sparkle, that “twinkle in their eye” is done with thread. Eyes are currently created with fabric although I am learning</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> to</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> express eyes with acrylic paints.</span></p></div>
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<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Now it’s just a matter of auditioning the right fabric piece, cutting and placing, over and over again. I no longer pin at this stage unless the piece is very tiny. I go for the “overall at-a-squinty distance” look. Often I’ll take a photo to see if I’m even close to declaring it a first draft.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Next I send a first draft email with 1) a statement of the things I know I still have to fix, 2) a list of questions, and 3) several photos. I use pins with flower heads to refer to a particular piece of fabric. “Is the yellow flower pin too light, too dark, or just right?” These are the Goldilocks questions. I’ll also ask what else do I need to tweak?  Note, this isn’t a “Do I need to?” question; I know there are other things that could enfuse his/her personality into this pet art piece. </span></p>
<h3><b>Step 5:  Second draft and maybe more </b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This is when the magic really happens. Usually this is filled with a number of photos/ emails/ responses going back and forth. A customer’s input is critical to this part of the portrait creation process so I can finesse the fabric details.</span><b> </b></p></div>
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<h3><b>Step 6: The sewing begins </b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Once I’ve received a stamp of approval, it’s time to sew it all down. Most of my work is sewn with a blanket stitch. In Cooper’s case, he was completely sewn except for his snout after his second draft. It took a few more tries before the snout was just right. </span></p></div>
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<h3><b>Step 7: Finishing</b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Once I get a final thumb’s up, a pet portrait is ready for the finishing process. That could be sewing the back and hanging sleeve for a wall hanging, stapling it on and attaching the hanging wire for a canvas-mounted piece, or sewing the back of a pillow. In Cooper’s case, she chose a paw print fabric for the back with a memorial heart pocket for his collar.  </span></p>
<h3><b>Step 8:  Homeward bound &#8211;  The photo shoot, wrapping, and trip to the post office</b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Each of my pet portraits gets their own official photo shoot (studio lights and all) since I want a good picture of each of these fabulous pets with whom I’ve spent some time. </span></p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Then each is wrapped in paw print tissue paper, tied with paw print ribbon, and placed in a USPS Priority Mail box. It’s just a hop, skip and a jump to my local post office where the insured order is on its way. I then send an email with the expected delivery date.  </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I always appreciate it when folks send me a photo of the portrait in its home.  And here, my friends, is Cooper watching over his family.</span></p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I would be delighted to create a <a href="thequiltedjardin.com/custom/">custom pet portrait</a> or <a href="thequiltedjardin.com/pet-memorial-portraits">memorial</a> for you or someone you know. Feel free to share my blog, and <a href="mailto:%20martha@thequiltedjardin.com">contact me</a> at any time to start the conversation.</span></p></div>
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